Are you a good leader? Ask yourself these 3 questions

Everyone’s path to leadership is different.

My leadership journey started in the military. I entered “management” at just 23 years old when I became the officer in charge of the Reactor Controls division on a nuclear submarine near the end of the Cold War.

I had trained for years for it.

I was ready for it.

I loved it.

I had a passion for the military, the Navy, and the mission of the submarine force. I wanted to lead sailors well and I felt a calling to serve.

Not surprisingly, I was surrounded by other leaders who felt the same way I did.

When I entered Corporate America, however, I found people who went into leadership for vastly different reasons. There were some good leaders, but…there were a lot of people who took management roles simply because of the perks.

They became managers to get recognition, more money, a fancy title, a better office, a bigger bonus check, or to further advance their careers.

They wanted the leadership job for personal gain.

And that’s a problem.

It’s one of the reasons why good leaders are hard to find in Corporate America and why employee engagement is so low.

Too many managers are just in it for themselves.

I like this quote from Lisa Haisha, “Great leaders don’t set out to be a leader… they set out to make a difference.”

“Great leaders don't set out to be a leader... they set out to make a difference.” Lisa Haisha Click To Tweet

In Corporate America today, finding leaders like this is rare.

Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking addresses this issue in an article she wrote in 2017 for the NY Times.

She points out what’s wrong with leadership in Corporate America today.

She explains we have “glorified” leadership so much so that people are taking on leadership roles for the wrong reasons. Today, leadership, “attracts those who are motivated by the spotlight rather than by the ideas and people they serve.”

She hits the nail on the head!

There is a shortage of good leaders because many people are choosing to lead for the wrong reasons.

There is a shortage of good leaders because many people are choosing to lead for the wrong reasons. Click To Tweet

If you want to be a good leader, ask yourself these 3 questions:

1. Do you have a passion for leadership?

Just like selecting any career, ask yourself if you have the passion to lead. To be a leader means you have the full responsibility of an organization and all the people associated with it. It means you will be accountable for everything that happens on your watch. It is a difficult and sometimes lonely job that demands a 24/7 commitment.

2. Do you care deeply about the idea or organization?

As the leader, all eyes will be on you. Your attitude toward the mission will reverberate throughout the organization. As a conductor, your team will be taking cues from you. If you care deeply about the organization’s mission, they will as well.

3. Do you love people?

Leadership is a people business. Your entire job is to motivate people towards accomplishing a goal. People are messy. They have issues, problems, emotions, relationships, and baggage. But your job is to see past the flaws, love your people, and motivate them to do great things.

News flash! You can’t be a great leader if you don’t love people.

You can’t be a great leader if you don’t love people. Click To Tweet

If you choose to lead, do it for the right reasons. And be a great leader.

Honestly, we need better, not more, leaders.

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Toxic Work Environments: An Interview with Author Pete Havel

I had a chance to sit down with author and business leader, Pete Havel, to talk about toxic work environments and his new book, The Arsonist in the Office: Fireproofing Your Life Against Toxic Coworkers, Bosses, Employees, and Cultures.  

This is a great book that I recently read and immediately added to my list of must-read leadership books. Pete and I share a similar view on leadership, that leaders should run to the fire and put out problems before they get bigger. But what happens if there is an arsonist in the workplace that keeps starting fires? Toxic employees are real and toxic work environments are more common than you think.

 Pete gives us a first-hand view of what it’s like to get hired into a toxic workplace that is held hostage by the actions of one toxic employee. This book is fascinating and it will make you think.

I loved this book and our discussion so please enjoy the conversation!

[Jon] You have a very interesting career history. Tell me a little about your work experience.

[Pete] I’ve spent most of my career as a lobbyist. Who knows toxic environments better than somebody in politics, right?  On a serious note, I’ve also worked closely with chambers of commerce, trade associations, and businesses of all kinds—telling their stories, building relationships and, putting out the occasional fire.

[Jon] Prior to the story in your new book, did you have experience working with difficult people?

[Pete] When you’re a lobbyist, you deal with every personality imaginable—some of them highly toxic.  And, by definition, each elected official is fighting for their own agenda.  That can create some really bad situations, as some are not realistic about their surroundings, or the promises they’ve made to their constituents, and it creates situations where you’re not dealing with a person focused on reality. Some are like actors with a role in a play, not serious negotiators because if they can’t execute, they bang on the table to show their people that they tried. So you have a case where everyone is trying to survive, but the definitions of what survival and victory look like can be defined in dozens of ways. It makes life interesting, to say the least.

[Jon] I never really thought of politicians that way but it makes a lot of sense. In the book, you introduce us to the antagonist named Hazel. What made her so uniquely toxic and what was the effect on the company you worked for?

[Pete] Hazel’s personal behavior was stunning.  She was the classic serial accuser who I was hired to work with.  She had filed so many false complaints—30 plus! and many of those geared toward the variety that can end a person’s job or career—that the organization made a fateful bargain. According to what I was told, she had made legal threats and senior leadership felt compromised and feared leaks that could embarrass the organization and them if they terminated her.

[Pete] My CEO went so far as to call her an ‘Arsonist’.  They decided that rather than fire a false accuser, they would keep her inside the organization and hire someone to take over some of her duties.  But the biggest challenge I faced was not Hazel, but the leadership that made decisions to dodge the problems she presented—they poured gasoline on the fire, so to speak, for everyone in her path.  If leadership had taken care of business like most organizations would, Hazel would have been fired. Instead, they played games, dodged issues and found themselves in constant crisis mode—and truly lost their moorings as leaders over time. While Hazel was called ‘The Arsonist’ by my CEO, I think some others deserved honorable mention or were at the very least vying for her title.

[Jon] This is what makes your story so compelling. It’s truly a cautionary tale of what happens when leaders don’t address a problem or a problem employee in their business. How would you define “arsonist” as it relates to business cultures?

[Pete] An arsonist is a highly destructive person who burns things down around them through their behaviors.  Arsonists in the traditional sense are motivated by finances, ego, desire for attention, adrenaline rushes, hero complexes, and revenge.  Arsonists in organizations operate under the exact same motivations.  They might want your job, clients, or status and will use their behaviors to take actions that get them those things.  Sabotage, crises that they create but then swoop in to solve, destructive gossip and much more.  Many arsonists have a superpower that many of us do not have: the lack of fear of consequences and no remorse for their actions.  When people can turn off those emotions, they can do a lot of damage.

An arsonist in the office is a highly destructive person who burns things down around them through their behaviors. Click To Tweet

[Jon] Switching gears a bit, I love the format of this book. You move in and out from storytelling to teaching concepts. Why did you choose this approach?

[Pete] I had both a message that people needed to hear when it comes to leadership, awareness, management and knowledge you only get when you’re in the middle of a broken culture.  But, I also had a personal experience that could help tell that story and would stick in people’s minds to help them remember the lessons.  And, I had a story that was just begging to be told in a way that showed the absurdity of what I witnessed.

[Pete] I had no interest in a ‘woe is me’ rant. The Arsonist in the Office is as funny as it is infuriating. At times, you won’t know whether you’re reading a business book or a novel.  And it’s by design. This is a tough topic as I’m talking about the worst experience of my life, but I wanted to make the learning part of the equation as enjoyable as possible.  My book is in a parable form, with the lessons I learned as the parable.  Readers learn how not to get burned by an arsonist by going through my experience.

[Jon] I teach the idea based on my naval submarine experience that leaders should run to the fire. They should attack problems before they get out of control. Why do you think the leaders in your story ran away from the fire? What was the effect?

[Pete] When you’re near a fire, there’s the chance of it burning you.  People with courage and the proper training understand that leaders are uniquely positioned to put out some fires.  In fact, it’s their role and it’s one that they must embrace to truly be successful. The leadership that I encountered openly worried about their legacies and their financial future if they ridded the company of their arsonist.  The effect was that a fire had long since been started by Hazel and it spread.  She furthered it with other actions on her own, but the message sent to other employees was unmistakable—they clearly understood through management inaction that bad behavior was going to be tolerated.  It set a new standard—or multiple standards for the ethics, values, and standards of the company.  Ignore that wildfire and you’ll eventually see the damage spread to every corner of the organization.

The message sent to other employees was unmistakable—they clearly understood through management inaction that bad behavior was going to be tolerated. Click To Tweet

[Jon] The impact of toxic employees and cultures seem to be in the news a lot lately. What are some recent stories you have heard that reinforce the importance of this topic?

[Pete] How long do you have?  We’ve seen recent examples with McDonald’s and Capital One what happens with organizations that have different rules for different people.  They lead to scandals (McDonald’s) and can lead to massive data breaches (Capital One).  In both cases, leaders either ignored their own rules or allowed toxic people to run roughshod.  Both are equally damaging.

[Jon] What has been the feedback from people who have read this book?

[Pete] So far, it’s been outstanding.  I’ve been very blessed. The risk I took with this book—especially in telling my own personal (but fictionalized) story—is massive.  It’s taboo to talk about what happened in a previous job.  But the style with which I wrote this did not reveal any insider information or name names, but it did reveal exactly what can happen when organizations abandon their values and stop caring about their culture and people.  The book and my message have generated great media coverage, excellent reviews, and feedback from individuals from the CEO level on down about the impact it’s had on how they operate.  That makes every second of dealing with Hazel worth it…ok, not every moment, but it’s still worth it.

[Jon] It’s good to hear the book is making a positive impact. What did you hope to achieve by writing and teaching on this important topic?

[Pete] I want to change bad cultures. Period.  I want to wake up the CEO who might be asleep at the wheel when it comes to culture or is simply relying on the culture that they saw before. I want to get them thinking about that top performer, but who is also an arsonist, in a new way.  I want to protect good people with the tools they need to survive in bad conditions. And, I want to shake things up for everyone who is taking abuse in the workplace. I’ve seen the wreckage in people’s eyes and their lives and I’ve made eliminating their burdens part of my mission.

[Jon] What is meant by “fireproofing” yourself and your organization?

[Pete] Fireproofing means a commitment to rebuilding the structure of your organization in ways that either catch arsonists early on or take care of them as soon as possible in the process.  It starts with revamping organizational values and commitment from company leadership, moves onto getting the hiring process as strong as possible to look for troubling candidates, and then moves throughout the organization to implement a welcoming and open, but watchful organization that both rewards great performance and cultural stars, but looks to extinguish fires as soon as they start. Then, in the endgame when fires start repeatedly, it means equipping an organization with the resolve to have one set of rules for everyone when it comes to highly destructive behavior.  Fireproofing doesn’t mean you’ll never have trouble, but it means the chance of a fire is lowered dramatically, it has less chance to spread, and when a fire does break out, it’s extinguished quickly.

Fireproofing means a commitment to rebuilding the structure of your organization in ways that either catch arsonists early on or take care of them as soon as possible in the process. Click To Tweet

[Jon] How can people get more information on your book or get your help in addressing their cultural challenges?

[Pete] They can find The Arsonist in the Office on Amazon, but they can also go to arsonistintheoffice.com to get a signed copy.  I have the book available in paperback, e-book, and now in audiobook—which is the version that really brings the book to life.

[Jon] By the way, I read the paperback then listened to the audiobook. I agree I think the audiobook really brings this book to life. I love how you used different voice actors to play the roles of all the characters in the story. Well done! 

This is an important leadership topic and a great book by Pete Havel. Please reach out to Pete and thank him for all his insights and take a moment to purchase this book for your library. I recommend buying both the book and the audiobook! You won’t regret it!

Toxic Work Environments: An Interview with Leadership Author Pete Havel

The Crisis We Face

I’ll be frank.

I’m concerned about the state of leadership in corporate America.

Every day I hear a new “bad boss” story.  One person told me of a boss that stands at the front door every morning with a clipboard in her hands.  Without offering so much as a hello, she records the names of employees that were coming in late or early.

No “good morning.”

No acknowledging them.

Just takin’ names.

Brutal.

By all accounts, there’s a leadership crisis in business today.  According to Gallup, 70% of employees are disengaged at work and half of U.S. employees are actively searching for a new job.  The bottom line is, we have a leadership problem in America.

According to Gallup, 70% of employees are disengaged at work and half of U.S. employees are actively searching for a new job. Click To Tweet

Yet, our collective knowledge on the subject has never been stronger.

There are no less than 15,000 books on leadership currently in print.

So what’s the “disconnect?”

In my humble-yet-highly-experienced opinion of running nine manufacturing businesses and leading on a nuclear sub in the Navy, we’ve lost sight of the goal.  We live in the “urgent”, the break-fix-repeat environment our busy lives encourage, and we’ve lost sight of what’s truly important…

Our people.

Without engaged people, everyone loses.

Without engaged people, everyone loses. Click To Tweet

Effective leaders understand this.

And the best ones are willing, when necessary, to let their people come before even a growing to-do list.

If you’d like to learn a simple way to pull the best out of your team, my book I Have The Watch reveals the leadership secrets (which are really people secrets) that have allowed me to make an impact from the confined quarters of a submarine to the expanse of corporate boardrooms.

You can order a signed copy here.

Turning those disgraceful stats around is going to take committed leaders.

Think you have what it takes? 🤔

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“As the founder of a fast-growing, people-based business, I could not put this book down. Unlike any other book on leadership I’ve read, I Have the Watch boils it down to what really matters: how you treat people.” Natasha Goldstein, Founder & CEO, The Accountkeepers.